3 generations under one roof

Today is my grandson Johnny’s first birthday, and we had the party at the local playground for a few reasons.  My house is somewhat small, the playground offered more activities for the kids then my house did, and the final reason we chose to have it there was because my ex husband and his girlfriend were invited. The kids could not really play on the playground because it poured pretty much the entire time, but we stayed dry under the pavilion.

Johnny showed no interest in the toys at all. He is teething again, with the ninth and tenth teeth. He is miserable to say the least, but he enjoyed the cake and ice cream. He is playing with the toys after we brought him home, and he likes the noisy ones the best! Personally, I think the most heartfelt card he got, was a special card from my daughter’s boyfriend whom is not Johnny’s dad. He wrote it to Johnny so he could read it later as he grows up. Coming from a man, I was deeply touched it brought tears to my eyes.  

Jonathon,

 If you are reading this then you are old enough to understand all of the thought and emotion that are behind these words.

Almost 6 months before your first birthday, I was fortunate enough to have you come into my life and in that short time I grew to love you like you were my own son. In fact, if everything has goes as planned, just before your second birthday you will become my son. 

But that really is beside the point, what I really wanted to say to you was that you have had such an impact on my life that I will never be the same. I love you Jonathon and I hope with each year, I have been able to remind you of that and that I am proud to have the opportunity to see you grow from a boy to a man.

Love, Tim

Just reading that brought tears to my eyes. This man has known my grandson for a few short months and loves him so much. Johnny’s biological dad has never laid eyes on him ever even though he lives a few blocks away.  

My ex did not show up, and gave no reason when my daughter called from the parry to remind him, he has only seen our grandson two times during the past year.  My daughter says she is done trying to involve her dad to anything, and my boys feel the same. Me I was like go ahead and invite them, while thinking to myself, I did not like it but I would deal with it.  It is not that I don’t like his girlfriend, she was a high school friend 25 years ago, and they got together a year and a half ago. I threw him out 3 years ago. I did not want to see him, today as he has been vacant for so long, I feel as if these are my kids and I simply do not wish to share the good things.

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